The time is NOW!

We all have dreams, ambitions, goals, and hopes for our futures. Then why aren’t we ALL living the lives we want to live? 

There are no easy answers to this question. However, so many of us aren’t even trying. We have given up before we really got started. It’s easy to give reasons for not moving in the directions of our dreams; it’s much harder to give reasons for chasing what we know deep down is our true path. 

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” –Les Brown

It’s true, so many of us do not try because we are afraid. It is up to us, as individuals, to break free from that fear. To challenge ourselves to stand up to whatever is holding us back. To look fear in its face and say, “I will not let you stop me!” 

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” –Steve Jobs

Let us break free from others’ way of thinking and carve our own path. I go to work. I work hard and put in my time. I earn a paycheck that helps pay the bills. In essence, I am working hard at fulfilling someone’s else’s dream. Some people are ok with this, and that is perfectly fine. But for others, it leaves them with a hole, an empty feeling. If you are one of these people, like myself, it’s time to take a good hard look at where you want to be in life. Then, make a decision to go after it! 

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. –Chinese Proverb

So what are we waiting for? It’s time to stand up and say, I’m tired of living someone else’s dream, I’m tired of putting my dreams on hold, I’m tired of listening to other people say I can’t do it, I’m tired of letting life pass by and not really participating, I’m tired of having this burning desire inside my soul and watching it slowly slip away and die, I’m tired…

The time is now folks. Let’s make a decision to be who we are meant to be!


Part Two: Live the Life You Were Meant to Live

As I mentioned in the previous post, it is important to gain as much joy and knowledge from every situation as possible. The more we can do this, the more fulfilling our lives become. By doing this, you can become content in any situation.

However, I do not believe we are meant to live merely a contented lifestyle. I believe we are meant to live an extraordinary one.

So the goal moves beyond finding contentment. We must live our dreams.

Recently, my wife and I have taken a long, hard look at our lives. We have decided that, even though we have a good life, it is not exactly the way we want to live.

So why not enjoy the life we are living but also tweak it to make it the extraordinary life we always dreamed of?

We are now in the process of planning the next stage of our lives. A stage that will be more aligned with our dreams. In our case, it will take a lot of time and planning, but the result will be well worth it. And I believe we will learn a lot about ourselves in the process.

I encourage anyone who is not completely and utterly exultant about their lives, to dig deep within themselves to find out why. Once you have answered that question, you can begin changing your circumstances and align them with your dreams. And YES, you DO have the power to do that.

Make a decision to go after whatever it is that makes you complete and do not let anyone or anything stand in your way.

I believe you will find that the journey will be just as rewarding as the destination.

Sometimes we have to make big changes to begin to live the lives we were meant to live. Often, we have to change our surroundings, our jobs, and our circumstances; but it all starts with a change of attitude. Once you have he correct mindset, the rest will more easily fall in place.

Believe you can make the best life possible for yourself. That is the first step. Believe it, then go get it!!

Live The Life You Were Meant To Live

We have all heard this:
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”
So cliche, so old, so overused, and yet so true.
I believe it is important to pull inspiration and fulfillment from every possible situation. Even when things seem dismally bleak, we can search deep within ourselves to learn and grow.
Sometimes it’s very easy to gain inspiration and joy from a situation or event. A magnificent fireworks display, a beautiful sunset on the beach, or the birth of a child. These are the moments that remind us to live the life we are supposed to live, and to discover those moments in everything, so they become our life.
I remember going to the lake often with my family as a kid. Most of the time, the weather was pleasant. It was easy to have a good time swimming and enjoying the sunshine. However, there was one time it rained, forcing us to take cover. I can still remember standing under a pavilion by the swimming area with a towel around my shoulders. I was watching the dark clouds roll in. The sound of the pattering of rain on he roof, the distant peals of thunder, and the familiar smell of the ionized air, took me to a different place. It was relaxing and surreal. A whole different experience to a familiar occurrence. To this day, when everyone else is grumbling about a summer rain shower, I welcome it.
The death of my father was a terrible event in my life. He was one of the extremely few people that are on a higher level of endearment to me. He died at an early age; which isn’t fair. However, through all of that pain and sadness, I realized this: Death is a release. I won’t pretend to know for sure what happens to our soul when we die, but I know it lives on, somewhere. And that place is much better than the pain of suffering through the unrelenting, unmerciful, agonizing destruction in the wake of Melanoma skin cancer. He isn’t suffering anymore. So, I find a sense of peace.
Not all moments are ideal. However, we can often gain insight and knowledge from the worst of them. We can find peace in dismal situations. We can can learn and become better people.
So keep your head up. Seek those moments that take your breath away. Search them out and grab them, hold on tight, and squeeze every ounce of joy from their overflowing fountains. And search for knowledge and inspiration from those moments that tug on your patience and contentment.
After all, we have one life to live. And sometimes it’s easy to fall into despair during trying times. But if we learn to live, to truly live like we are meant to, to extract all the inspiration and understanding from every situation, the road of life becomes clearer and more navigable; and we can then, more thoroughly enjoy those moments that take our breath away.

Dreaming Reality

One night a man had a dream. In his dream he was transported to a different place than what he had ever known.

The first thing he saw was his father; who had passed away a few years ago. Followed by his mother, who had also recently passed. They were young and very happy. “This is the way I always wanted to remember them”, he thought instead of the way he remembered them now. Old, frail, and bitter. He noticed several close family members were nearby. Old friends that he hadn’t seen in years smiled as they passed by, then going on about their business. Then he saw his wife. She was in her wedding dress. She was the most beautiful thing he had ever laid his eyes on. He kissed her gently on the lips. An excitement filled his soul, he had missed that feeling. Seconds later, two children poked their heads out from behind her. They were their kids. Their eyes were full of love and excitement as they ran to hug him, laughing; the sound filled the air with love. The hug felt so wonderful; the most comforting thing he could imagine. All the people he cared about were there. Everybody was in the happiest stages of their lives. It was all surreal. Everyone was happy, content, and doing the things they loved to do.

He looked around him. He was outside. The sun was shining, birds were singing, and happy people were milling around doing various activities. It appeared to be early fall, by the look of the trees and the cool air. This was his favorite time of year. He breathed in deeply and smiled. “I’ve never been in a more perfect place.” He hadn’t felt peace like this in a very long time.

He spent the next several minutes just looking around. Noticing all of the sights, sounds, and other wonders that touched his senses. Everything was perfect and new. If he wanted to eat, he simply let someone know and a delicious meal would appear. In fact, if he needed anything, it was there, always surrounded by the love and comfort of those dear to him.

Later, he felt like exploring this new world. He wondered around in euphoria. Everything seemed new and exciting. He covered a long distance in a short amount of time. He investigated how things worked in his new surroundings and made interesting discoveries. He shared his excitement with those close to him. He had an unquenchable thirst for the knowledge and understanding of everything around him. Each new endeavor brought him immeasurable joy. He discovered fascinating places and wonderful people. Some of these people he knew, some he didn’t, all became friends.

After a while of this, he wanted his family. He cherished their company. He talked to his wife and listened to her. He treasured every moment. He took her to the places he had discovered and she showed him new ones. He explained the world as he saw it and she showed him different points of view. They took long walks together and sat by each others side. He gazed into her eyes and he made love to her. He played with their children and taught them the things he knew. They showed him unconditional love and he could feel it, deep inside himself. He spent a long time in their company; loving, laughing, and enjoying every minute.

Then, when everything seemed to be at the peak of enjoyment, a thought crept into his mind. That thought changed everything for him.
“Why am I here?” He asked himself.
The thought crowded his mind and he quickly became obsessed. He couldn’t quit thinking about it. He began searching for an answer. He went to his wife. He looked her in the eyes and asked her the question. She shrugged and a worried look crossed her face.
“What does it matter?”, she asked.
He wasn’t satisfied. He went to a friend and asked, “How do you think we got here?”
The friend replied with a smile, “God put us here.”
“But why?”, he asked.
“To serve him.”
“WHY?”, his frustration grew. He went to a neighbor. “Why do YOU think we are here?”, he asked.
The neighbor smiled, “To search for answers within ourselves. To become one with everything.”
The man still was not satisfied and became increasingly more anxious and frustrated. He began to annoy his friends and family and they became worried about him. His kids looked at him like a stranger and shied away. His wife tried to talk to him, but he only obsessed about the question and scared her. She too began to stay away from him. Time went on and he began to panic. He became bitter and ill. Everyone stayed away and thought he had become insane. They went on living their lives without him and this made him angry.

One day, a very old and wise man approached him. He began to barrage the old man with question after question about the purpose of their existence. The old man lifted his hand to silence him. “Look around you.” The wise, old man said. “This is a perfect place. Everyone and everything you care about is here in front of you. They are growing more and more concerned, and you do not care. You choose to waste time chasing a question that cannot be answered. And you do not know how long you will be here.”
The man paused. He began thinking about his behavior and the behavior of those he cared about. He felt silly. He was going to apologize. He was going to love the company of his friends and family again and show them how much he loved them. He thanked the man and decided he would start now and go find his wife and talk to her and listen and do all of the things they used to do.

But before he could, the bells of the alarm clock tolled and the dream was over.